If somebody ask that “Can we be the just friend with girl? First, I would like to say “yes” because I also have a friend who is girl. Although our friendships have been almost 13 years, I have never felt love from her. We are just friend; the same as friends of boy, but many friends who is my friends of boy told me “how can you keep the relationship between me and my friends of girl.” There are three conditions to get the friendship between man and woman.
First, they need to have the charming point each other. Some people think that charming point is only about appearance. The other people think that the charming point is only about fiscal ability which is about money. If they think that my friends of boy or girl doesn’t have any charming points, it wouldn’t be friends each other because they would think just my friends who have same gender is the better than friends of girl.
Second condition is that they should have a prerequisite which “we are just friends.” If one of them think that “I think I like my friends of girl more than her”. When you start to think like that, the relationship between man and woman is going to be broken as a friend. Therefore, if you really want to be her or his just friend, don’t think like that. The last and most important condition is that we should have an open mind of his or her future boy or girl friend, and we should not interfere in his or her love; for example, “why did you go out with her or him. That girl or boy is terrible”. We can counsel their love as a man and woman. We really know that their lover’s mind than any other people because we have a same gender of their love. We shouldn’t judge his or her love, but we can give him or her advices, as a friend.
In my opinion, whoever, friend of boy or girl, both are just friend. Don’t think that “I cannot make a relationship with man and woman as just as a friend. Don’t have an affectation or prejudice that my friend is man or woman because they also one of our precious friends.
I really like what you wrote . Also ,it is really hard for boys and girls to keep their friendship as a friend only . Most of the boys cannot have self control about their feeling so they do not know how to put lines between them and the girls. For me , I prefer to have boyfriends more than having girls ,when I look for someone to be friends with,I look for someone with whom I can watch TV, play sports, go fishing, or have a barbecue.
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